Today I was given another reminder about the the true meaning of friendship…
Friendship is only available to those who put in time helping a friend who has fallen and picking them back up. Friendship is jumping into the hole where your friend is after they fell in.
You can’t buy friendship with money, nor can you buy it with words. How can you say you’re a friend through inaction. It should never be about your needs, but the needs of OTHERS. Selfishness is not a friend. Saying “I’m going to do something,” then never doing it isn’t being a friend. What’s worse is expecting me to do something that jams me up because it is important to them isn’t being a friend.
Kindness, compassion, love, honesty all are where friends live. Joanna and I spent hours last night with my friend Reid. We all marveled over the success we had since we haven’t seen each other for almost a year. But we pick right up where we left things off as always. We can talk for hours about end on each others projects offering our help looking for nothing in return.
Tonight another my best men at my wedding is showing up for dinner. Mitch and I will start telling old stories like it was nothing and then we will rock paper scissors for the check. We sit and talk about families, friends and the mistakes we have made in the past without judgment.
In a couple of weeks I will get to spend some time with my friend Joe. We have gone through the ups and downs, in work and family. If I needed him to come see me for some emergency, he would be on a plane from Missouri like that.
That’s what friends are for. They are there for the convenient times, they aren’t there for just the great times.
They are there when you need them.
This morning I got a nasty text message from someone I haven’t heard in 5 years. Someone who calls me a friend, but is a friend when it is convenient to them.
“Why did you delete me as a Facebook friend? I was going to talk to you about KISS tickets…”